I know what you're thinking...
And, we'll get to that bedtime connection sooner or later............... ;)
When you dated your spouse, you probably couldn't get enough of each other. You could talk all day long. You could share every little detail about your life so easily. You made every effort to spend as much time with them as possible. Then, you get married. You have careers. You start having babies. You have bills to pay. You have meetings to attend. Life gets super busy and sometimes we lose that loving connection without even realizing it.
Connecting with your spouse everyday is an important thing. I know not every couple has the same schedule or even gets to see each other everyday (bless our military families) but, even if you can't connect every single day, it's important to have that as at least a semi-routine of speaking with each other....to be purposeful in connecting when you can.
One thing Jeremiah and I try to do is to connect at bedtime. It's when we're both home, we're finished with the day's work, Emery's asleep, and we can take a couple of minutes to focus on us.
Dr. Doug Weiss who is the author of The Miracle of Marriage recommends doing a couple of things with your spouse at bedtime....
1. Share at least 2 feelings you've had throughout your day.
2. Share at least 2 praises you have about your spouse.
3. Pray together.
Jeremiah and I have done this, and can really tell a huge difference in our relationship when we take the 5 minutes to share with each other. I think it was a little different to share like this at first, but we got use to it quickly.
I know this type of thing may not be for everyone, but I do think connecting is a necessity for every couple. In a time when everyone is usually extremely busy, it gives married couples a chance to come together and get on the same page.
Romans 14:19 tells us, "So let’s agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other. Help others with encouraging words; don’t drag them down by finding fault."
Use your energy to make your marriage peaceful. Being intentional to connect with your spouse as much as possible really will help you have a happy marriage!