31 Days to a Happy Marriage: Day 2: The Right One

Have you ever asked yourself, "Did I marry the right one?"  I did....a couple of times.  I know my husband did, too.  He told me. Ha!  There were many times where both of us threw our hands up in the air saying, "What in the world did we get ourselves into?!"  "How could I possibly have married who God wanted me to if I feel this way?"

If you have ever asked yourself those questions, let me answer them for you quickly and simply...  Yes, you married the right one.

If you are married, you are married to the right one.  The first tip to having a happy marriage is to get that settled within your heart as soon as possible.  If you're thinking back fondly on old boyfriends (or maybe even ex-husbands), remember that they are ex's for a reason. If you're comparing your husband to someone else, stop.  You're setting your marriage up for failure by doing that.  Marriage is a sacred and special thing.  Once you're married, you become ONE with your mate. You're only causing hurt and pain by comparing your spouse to others.

In Philippians 4, Paul says, ¹¹ I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. ¹² I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. ¹³ I can do all this through him who gives me strength.


You might be wondering what that scripture has to do with marriage.  Well, learning the secret to being content in all areas of you marriage starts by knowing you're with the right one.  I looked up the definition of this particular usage of content and it means, "independent of external circumstances." Being content with our spouse is saying, "I'm not going to base my love for you and my satisfaction with you on circumstances."  That can be hard to do...especially during rough times.  But, when we believe that we're with the one God has for us, we really can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.  We'll be able to face the hardships of marriage and the awesome times in marriage because we can be satisfied with who we're facing them with.  We can even learn to be excited about our spouse!  Moving from questioning our marriage to excitement about our marriage is where God wants us to be.

*Find a list with links to the other posts in this series here.*