Monday, October 22, 2012

31 Days to a Happy Marriage: Day 22: Be Attractive...B-E Attractive!

We've talked about a lot of personal attitude and relational issues the last few days.  Now I'm going to take a post to talk about something more external...

My sister, Amanda, recently sent me a link to a single dad's post entitled, "16 Ways I Blew My Marriage."  It's actually pretty funny and insightful.  One of the ways he listed that stuck out to me was, "Don't stop being attractive."

My Mimi was amazing at this.  She would wake up early and make sure she 'put her face on' so she looked good for her husband and family.  When my parents were visiting her one time and my dad noticed she was always 'put together' before breakfast, he asked her why.  She said, "If I can't do this for my family, why would I do this for anyone else?"


When we're dating we always look our best.  We spend time getting ready for our dates, picking out our outfits, brushing out teeth, etc.

But many times, after we're married, and we've got kids running around, we don't maintain that as a priority.

Our spouse deserves us looking our best.

Song of Solomon 2:16 tells us, "My beloved is mine and I am his."  We are in this together. We are one. When we put effort into looking nice for our spouse, we can really help our own confidence.

I know a lot of us don't look like we did while we were dating our spouse. That's life.  We get settled in home life, have kids, eat big family meals, and our bodies change as we get older.  It's just gonna happen.  No shame in that.  BUT, we don't have to dress frumpy.  We don't need to let being busy  become an excuse for looking sloppy.  We don't have to spend an hour curling our hair and $100 on a new outfit, but we can throw on some cute earrings and some mascara in less than 5 minutes and look more put together.  Husbands, you could wear cologne and shave for your wife without it being a special occasion.

I'm thankful for the times Jeremiah has overlooked my frumpy-ness.  And, I'm thankful for the times he's invested in looking good just for me.

Let's look our best for our mate.  Let them be the reason we 'put our face on'.

Find a list with links to the other posts in this series here.*