Friday, October 19, 2012

31 Days to a Happy Marriage: Day 19: Friends

There's almost nothing better than having a good support system of friends and family.  When the people around you have the same values for a good marriage that you do, you tend to encourage each other without even realizing it.

Every month Jeremiah and I host our church's Young Marrieds group.  We eat good food and spend time talking about marriage topics that will hopefully help us all.  We've built friendships with this group and have been able to have an openness with them that provides accountability and a safe place to share.

I encourage all married couples to find other married couples to be friends with.

It can sometimes get dangerous if as married people we try to hang out with our single friends all the time.  We're in different phases of life.  It's not that we can't have single friends, but once we're married, we need to guard our hearts that we don't yearn for the 'single life'.  Be cautious if hanging out with your single friends does that to you.  By having fun married friends, it helps remind us that marriage is just as fun (if not more fun) than single life!

It's funny to me that sometimes married people long for the good ole' days of the single life, while during the single life most of them were longing for the days of finding 'the one'.

1 Corinthians 15:33 tells us, "Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character"."

Single friends with bad intentions can hurt your marriage.  Men, be cautious of the guys you hang out with.  How do they talk about women?  How to they talk about your marriage to you?  Women, don't hang out with other women who tell you all men are bad.  That's not true, and it will sow negative seeds into your head.

If you're spending more time with your friends than with your spouse, change it.  Make time for the love of your life.  If you're not feeling the love anymore, spending more quality time together can help rekindle that.

Remember, your marriage is precious.  Guard it with your life!  And, find friends who will help you guard your marriage's oneness.

Find a list with links to the other posts in this series here.*

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